In today's media-driven society, you will always hear that the right car, the right clothes, the right friends, the right cologne will get you to the ultimate prize -- A fabulous sex life.  And if you are a real man, you will be having sex all the time.  And if you play by the popular sex education rules, you will be safe with condoms.

What about a counter-cultural movement that offers you 100% protection and 100% satisfaction for a life time?

The reality is that we are sexual beings, and the reality is that guys really are different from girls.  But guys and girls alike have a common desire for love and commitment.  Marriage seems like a long way off, but consider the options that could seriously jeopardize your future and your ideals for a family:
  1. You could become a father now, instead of later when you're ready for it.
  2. You could suffer deeply from a broken heart that is compounded by physical bonds.
  3. How about an STD for life?
  4. Having sex could interfere with your future marriage relationship.
  5. You could lose your self-respect.
  6. You could destroy a girl just for your own sexual desires.
  7. You could destroy your own reputation.
  8. It would be hard to focus on your life goals if you had to deal with any of these things.
  9. You could feel cheap and used.
  10. You could cheat yourself out of real friendships with the opposite sex.
Your actions today affect a lot of people:  you, your family, your future spouse, someone else's future spouse, and your children.

You can operate in control of your urges and control your future, or you can operate out of your physical desires and have your future control you.

"How do I stay cool without losing a girl's respect?  I don't want to look stupid."

Did you know . . . .

. . . .that there are more that 25 Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's)?  Some of these have NO cure.

. . . .that HPV-Human Papilloma Virus, known as genital warts is a life-long disease.  Once you get it, it's yours to keep.  It causes cervical cancer in women.  Condoms offer NO protection.

 . . . . that HIV causes AIDS and has NO cure.  Condoms fail to prevent its spread 1 out of 6 times.  Or you could play Russian Roulette.

. . . . that Chlamydia is a bacteria that can be cured, but that 80% of girls have no symptoms.  This disease could disable a woman from being able to have children.  Condoms offer little help in stopping the spread of this disease.

. . . . that Herpes is a virus that has NO cure.  It's painful and can be passed to newborn babies.  Condoms don't offer much protection here either.


Pick your girlfriends wisely.  Find out ahead of time if they are sexually active.  If they don't share your views on remaining sexually pure until marriage, then you may find yourself in a compromising situation.

Group dates are a good, fun option that allows protection for all involved.  It's difficult to be alone and become physically intimate with lots of company. 

Be honest at all times.  Let a girl know in the beginning that you're planning on saving yourself for your wife.

Stay fully clothed at all times.  It's like asking to be put right in the frying pan of temptation when someone has even one article of clothing off.

Set your limits before you even have a girlfriend.  Discuss these limits early so that you can determine how to keep your promise to yourself and to your future spouse.

Remember that if you have to find privacy to continue your actions (private touching, undressing, etc.), you are going down the wrong road.  Be in control of your commitment.

Safe Sex?  You decide. . .

. . . . For pregnancy, condoms fail 1 out of 5 times.  Yet a girl can only get pregnant a few days out of each month.

. . . . For STDs, condom failure is much greater:  1.  Disease particles are a lot smaller than sperm, which is what condoms were invented to stop.  2.  Condoms only cover a small area of body parts.  STDs can be passed by skin to skin contact where condoms do not cover.  3.  STDs are present every day of every month.

. . . . Not every condom is tested for holes.  They leak and break during use.  Condoms can be damaged in extreme heat or cold and can deteriorate during transportation.

Abstinence Educators' Network, Inc., P.O. Box 531, Mason, Ohio 45040
Phone (513) 398-9801   Fax (513) 398-3624